Saturday, 26 May 2012

Why Why Why?

Isn't this how you felt when your child was born?
So what about this?

"That'll keep her quiet for a few minutes."

"If we're out and he starts to create, I just give him a biscuit to shut him up."

"I was stuck with the kids all day yesterday, it was so boring."

"You're always going on.  You annoy me."

"Oh shut up, will you?"

"Yeah, he can be a right little sh*t sometimes."

"I'm dreading the holidays, I get sick of them after two days."

"I don't know what he's on about.  I can't be arsed to listen."
[laughingly to a friend she was with]

"F*cking shut it will you?"

"I'm sick of them, they drive me mad."

"She's so irritating!"

"I wish you'd never been born!"


"It's all right, she doesn't understand what I'm saying."

I don't know whether it's the heat, but I have heard all of the above and many, many more over the past few days.  Not just from 'deprived' mothers, but from ABC1 types too.

I never claim to be a perfect mother, but may I never ever say these things to or about my children.

Yes, we all have moments of stress, but we're the adults, we need to control our words, our tones and our attitudes, for the words our children hear from us today will become their internal dialogue in the future.

If this is truly how these parents feel, then why, why, why did they have their beautiful, incredible children in the first place?

There are so many people who would treasure every molecule of that little person's being and may never have the chance, so parents, please, please honour your children if you are lucky enough to have them!

Choose your words carefully, they do hear you and they do understand, long, long before they can answer you back or respond to your hurtful tone and barbs.

Honour, love and cherish your family this weekend.  The way you talk to and treat them now is the way they will go on to respond to you and others in the future.  If their self-esteem is built high by you today, just think what they could achieve!

Have a happy, peaceful weekend in the sun x

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  1. Your post gave me goosebumps Leta. I SO agree with you. And we all have bad moments. Mine are currently at night, with a toddler who wakes up every few hours while the baby sleeps through. I'm SO fed up I've caught myself yelling and growling mean things to her without even being fully awake. It's horrible and I feel so sad about it. I've got her sleeping next to daddy in another room at the moment, just to protect her from my suddenly horrible night time parenting :( I love that quote at the end. I could not agree more.

    I was complaining to someone about Ameli's sleep hassles since Aviya's birth and a few days ago I was on skype and said to my mom, 'no Aviya sleeps perfectly' and from the foot of the bed, playing with Lego, Ameli pipes up 'it's me that's the problem at night'. Well, it nearly broke my heart. Obviously, she's listening and absorbing every single word. Mama must do better :(

    1. omg, i know exactly what you mean. but remember, even the best mums get it not-quite-right sometimes (like several times a day- at least). please, be as forgiving with yourself as you would be with your girls.

  2. Love this post. Thank you for the reminder :)

  3. Lovely pots, I hope that I will always treasure every moment with my children which I'm sure I will.

    helen - #brilliantblogposts


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