Wednesday, 1 August 2012

Blogging as a Popularity Contest

Were you one of the popular kids at school?  I wasn't, not by a long way.  I had my little group of friends, whom I was quite happy with, but I was never in with the in crowd.  To be honest, I'm glad.  At the time I probably had more than the odd moment where I wished I was, but I later realised that the popular ones, the girls at least, were also very soon the sl*gs, very soon the no-hopers in life, and were not exactly destined for great things.


Before you get on your high horse, I'm not saying I was destined for a wonderful, charmed life, or anything else, but intellectual pursuits were rather more appealing to me than frequenting pubs and nightclubs; decent conservation preferable to idle chatter about celebrities and television programmes.  Always have been, always will be.  Those choices meant not meeting my Mr Right until my late thirties, and more than my fair share of quiet nights in, which I didn't always appreciate at the time.  But in the end all has worked out well.

I thought the angst about such things was far behind me when I reached proper adulthood and the world of work, but more than once I fell over the primped and preened 'look at me's in one work place or another.  Teaching, alas, is rife with them!

You know the sort, all style and exterior, with no real substance.  Happy to spend hours on hair and make-up, rather than learning and discovering more about the world and the (other) people in it.  'Cos that's the thing, those types don't actually seem to know there are other people, even - gasp - people who don't give a monkies whether their nails are bejewelled, or their hoohas vajazzled.  Shocking.

Anyway, deep breaths, those types have become fewer and further between the older I've got, as even they realise there is more to life as age and reality hits them.  I thought the whole 'popular girl' thing was well and truly over.  But then I started blogging.

Now, don't get me wrong, I have met some lovely bloggers, both online and in real life, but there are so many other bloggers who appear to be so wrapped up in their little pre-established cliques, that they barely manage to reply when you attempt to engage them in conversation at an event; that don't bother to reply when you tweet them directly, and more.

I'm sure they are all perfectly nice people, and in other situations would be happy to chat, or maybe they are just very shy, but what gives?  I'm not asking for much, just a few words, to say hi, or chew the cud about something.  I don't require lifelong undying friendship, but even a hello seems too much of a challenge for some.

And then there is the other aspect of the popularity contest - your stats.  There are various rating schemes which determine your rank in this blogging lark, and various vectors which determine whether you go up or down each month.  Some people care, a lot don't.  From what I can tell, the ones at the top seem to remain at the top, and the others shuffle about underneath them.

Your stats and your rankings apparently determine whether PR companies notice you, and I'm sure other vitally important things.  Some people seem to do nothing but reviews and giveaways, with an 'oh yet another vast package arrived at my door this morning, yawn' attitude, I think intended to make everyone else wildly jealous.  (Not sure it works!)  Others only review the odd one or two bits that they absolutely love and believe in, but most bloggers fall between the two camps.

When I first started blogging, I had no idea about this whole review thing, that people will seek to send you stuff for you to write about it.  Great idea though - really cheap publicity for companies, plus free stuff for us.  I can do that, I thought, more than happy to help out if it's something I like or believe in.  And we have had some lovely things to review, some lovely approaches from companies and PRs, and some nice events to go to.  (I shan't mention here the huge long list of reviews I owe people...)

I can also see why the PRs need to know a blog has a certain number of people looking at it, so they will notice the product being reviewed, and I am happy to send my stats over, when requested to do so.  I have heard some horrendous PR stories from other bloggers, but so far mine have been nothing but good.  So far...

Not so long ago, I saw a PR company asking on Twitter for bloggers to review toys.  It was a company I'd met a couple of people from already and chatted happily to, so I said yes, I'd be happy to help out.  Several weeks later (today) I got a reply telling me that they had been monitoring my blog and social media, and my 'coverage' isn't good enough for them.  Apparently, I don't engage with, or link to, other bloggers as much as they'd like, but if I'm a good girl and work hard to improve all that, they might approach me to review a product in the future.  [I may be paraphrasing slightly on the 'good girl' part ;o)]

Just to clarify, we are talking about a toy here - not a few grand's worth of electronics or a new car, a toy.

Apparently my working hard to 'expand my blog' will help both of us, and they are delighted to tell me that they will be monitoring my blog over the coming months to see that I do that.

WTF?!

Here's my shooting myself in the foot reply:

Dear x,

I can see why rankings, figures and whatever else you have considered matters from your perspective, but I'm getting a bit tired of the popularity contest which blogging involves.

I blog about what I want to when I have the time to do so, but my family and real life will always come first.  Some weeks/months I will blog a lot, engage with people (relative strangers) on Twitter, Facebook etc, some I won't.  During the latter, I will be too busy enjoying life with my husband and children.

I am happy to review products for companies, but am more than capable of buying a twenty quid toy for my daughter myself.  At the end of the day, PR companies sending toys, or other products, to bloggers for review is a means of garnering cheap publicity.  In this case, the toy company will only be incurring the cost price of a few toys + postage (less than a hundred pounds at most), which is chickenfeed compared to the cost of high profile magazine or TV advertising campaigns.

When you asked on Twitter for bloggers to review your products, I answered favourably largely as a favour to you and your clients, not for any prospective huge gain for myself and my family.  If specific figures and/or outreach were required, perhaps you should have approached the bloggers you perceived to meet your criteria directly, rather than ask generally for bloggers to review and then go through this charade.

If, in the future, you deem me deserving of your review opportunities, I will be happy to consider them, but will obviously have to consider your figures, engagement (very poor at the moment) and outreach first.

I enjoyed meeting representatives of your agency at several events I attended recently, and am surprised that their approach to talking to bloggers and yours seem so poles apart.

Good luck with your campaign,

Leta.

Now I am quite sure I will never receive a toy from them, but quite honestly I can do without the hassle.  I know where the shops are after all!

I am getting very tired of no reply or rude replies, whether from bloggers, admins, or PRs.  I have no wish to enter the blogger popularity contest, and am quite happy bumbling along writing my drivel for whoever wants to read it (over a thousand people a week much to my surprise - not showing off, just making a point!  Honest.)

I am the first to admit that I don't keep up with my blog as much as I might, and I have lists upon lists of things I both want and need to do, but I have a baby, a toddler and a husband, I live 2 minutes from the beach, and its summer, so let it all go hang.  I'll get round to it all eventally, and if that's not good enough, well so be it.

To those PRs and companies who do think me and my blog are all right, thank you!  We love working with you, and will do what we can to help.  If you want to join us, there's always room for more.  To the rest, go look for the bright shinies and give them your 'opportunities'.

But, more importantly, thank you to all of those who do take the time to read my blog, thank you for commenting on posts, thank you for entering giveaways, thank you for following me on Facebook and Twitter, and if you do remember to say hello somewhere along the way, even in real life, I'll be your BFF - but only if you want me to be ;o)

In the meantime, I've already won the only popularity contest I'm really interested in - Lara, Sophia, Steve, Yuri, Taya and Misha think I'm amazing! :o)


UPDATE: Regarding the e-mail which prompted my rant, I have exchanged e-mails with the account manager today, who has explained that his assistant was supposed to be talking about boosting our Google page rank, as that was what they had based their criteria on.  The e-mail wasn't supposed to come across quite how it sounded, and he was keen to maintain their blogger relationships.  Fair play to him, and I have been most appreciative of his attention to the matter.

As I have pointed out to several people who seemed to think I was upset at being knocked back, I have a thick skin and fully understand that PRs need to get the best return for their client, and stats are a big indicator of that.  Having gone .com my Google page rank went down from 3 to 0, so no hope for me!

Anyway, I just wanted to update you, and to reiterate that most PR approaches and companies are great, but please do speak up when you feel unprofessionality or rudeness creeping through - from either side!

Thank you so much for all the supportive comments, tweets and e-mails I have received, so kind!

Have a good night everyone, enjoy the Bake Off, Lx



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  1. Oy Madam - demand immediate adding to the list of whom you are popuar with!!!

    Cheek!!! Lol

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  2. I do very few reviews and only approach companies via Britmums shout outs generally.

    How very dare they. Blogging is a hobby at the end of the day, and the little things we get for our family are a little icing on the cake.

    Totally out of order.

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    1. Thank you, glad you agree. As I said, I'm more than happy to accept things to review, but to ask for reviewers and then be that rude seems churlish to say the least!

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  3. Great post. I got the same email today - two fingers up at them I say :)

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    1. Glad to speak for others who got that rude mail! Thansk for commenting, L.

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  4. Hear hear! I think what some PRs may be forgetting is that it's not just about the size of your audience but about how targeted your audience is. Reaching a smaller number of the right people is far more valuable than reaching a larger number of randomers. Don't get caught up in all that popularity stuff. You're really clear about who you are and what you blog about and that's such a refreshing thing. x

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    1. Thank you, I think I might have to make an addition to my disclaimer:

      "I always say what I think and mean what I say, although it may not always be what everyone likes."

      or something like that!

      Thanks for choosing my post for the 'Ten at Ten' this week, Lx

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  5. Interesting post.

    I think cliques can look like cliques from the outside, but just look like 'good friends' from the inside. We all have limited time, and sometimes people just want to use social media to chat to people they know, and already like. I think it's important not to judge people for that, or make assumptions - although there's no excuse for bad manners, of course.

    I had someone recently take offence because I hadn't replied to a query after 48 hours - but I was busy balancing child at home and (more than) full-time job at the time, and returning from a week's holiday - and catching up! Again, it was a case of someone from the outside making assumptions about me, and my motivations.

    All that aside, I think a PR agency telling you they'd monitored your blog for weeks and deemed it not suitable for a campaign is spectacularly ill-judged. Why the agency couldn't have just said, "Unfortunately we don't have any suitable items for review at the moment" and moved on is - honestly - a complete mystery to me. A bit of a mistake, I think.

    Metrics are important because agencies need to feed back stats to clients. If you engage with a PR agency as a reviewer you are, to some extent, engaging with them professionally, so you should expect to be asked for metrics.

    If reviewing isn't important, and you don't have a geeky interest in numbers and improving them, then metrics aren't important - and nor is popularity. As I always say a 'successful' blog is one that makes you happy. End of story. If you're happy, then that's what matters and don't let tactless PR agencies or anyone else get in the way of that :D

    /end rant/

    And see you at the party!

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    1. Thank you, Sally. Interesting to hear what you think are the basic requirements of professionalism, from both sides.

      I quite agree that politeness and professionalism are paramount. Unfortunately, not all bloggers, or it seems PRs, adhere to that!

      Looking forward to meeting you in Brighton, L.

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  6. Good post with some truthful points on bloggers and PR. I'm new to all this so haven't had many run ins with PR yet. Strangely it was a company that have annoyed me the most with a £6 toy - and I certainly wont be reviewing any of their toys, luckily I know the way to the shops too!

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    1. It has amazed me how many people have had similar experiences to you. How can PRs be getting it so wrong?

      None of us expect to be inundated with offers of diamonds, but a bit of politeness and reasonableness goes a long way!

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  7. Love it!

    I'm afraid i was never in the popular camp at school nor in the blogging world, but like you my blog is my own place and thats what it will remain but I know what you mean :) I try to reply to everyone i come into contact with, just to be polite, I'm sure some people just think i'm odd :P

    I've actually just decided to cut back on reviews as it has taken over my blog on what i set out to do & like you say for something that is probably easier to just go buy!

    Good luck with getting the campaigns that suit you, not the PR'S! :)

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    1. I think sometimes that I spend my whole life being thought 'odd' by one camp of people or another!!

      I am very happy to review products we like, and to promote companies we like or believe in, but judgmental PRs I can do without!

      I love your blog by the way, so am delighted you popped over :o)

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    2. Just reading the update :)

      Thank you for your lovely comment! Hope your ok :)

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  8. Absolutely WELL SAID!! I wrote a post myself about a similar subject on Monday - fed up to the back teeth of poor PR approaches and unprofessionalism. I don't work with them, never have, never will, but some of these companies really need to up their game and stop disrespecting bloggers, parents bloggers in particular.

    CJ x

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    1. Just read your post, brilliant! I think we've all had enough of rude and unprofessional approaches. It's a shame too that it gives the many great comapnies and good PRs a bad name too.

      I won't deny that we've done well out of blogging so far, and hope to continue to do so, but there are too many misfires too!

      Well done you for sticking to your guns. Am now following blog BTW, lots of posts I want to read when I get time! Lx

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  9. The other day I had a PR contact that just said "Hi, we want to put an ad on your blog, Interested?" That was it, the WHOLE email. As you can imagine my reply was a single word "no". Put a bit of effort in PRs at least tell me what its for. If I've got to chase it its not worth it. I am so unimportant to them they can't even be bothered to do a mail merge to put my name at the top!

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    1. Amazing!! There are so many lazy approaches, what do they expect to achieve?!

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  10. Whoops & cheers at ya lady. Well done! x

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  11. well said you. Im with you on this I am happy to have a product if it is useful to me and mine, and happy to buy it if I dont see it offered for free.

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    1. Definitely! Not worth the aggro for a freebie sometimes!

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  12. Really great post and I can honestly say I know exactly where you're coming from. I had no idea blogging would involve so much playground popularity rubbish. It's nice to know I'm not the only one who's a bit irked by it all.

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    1. Thank you, glad to hear that I'm not the only one too! I'm amazed by the response I've had to this post, not all of it positive, but so glad to be speaking out for so many who feel the same :o)

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  13. awww thank you for making me and my not so popular blog feel so much better about ourselves. I think you are right, and although I do strive to increase my popularity keeping true to yourself is what's most important.
    I was taken aback recently when approached to review a rather nice and expensive piece of baby equipment, I almost talked them out of it with my spiel, it's a new blog, I don't have many followers, I'm not popular...but they replied saying that I had a lovely blog and they liked the way I wrote. Shame not all PRs are the same.

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    1. That's brilliant Anne, well done you! You must be doing something right, it's that kind of PR outreach we like! Off to read said lovely blog now...

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  14. You're amazing, well done you! It's about time someone took them to task! Last night fuelled by Baileys, I e-mailed a PR who keeps sending press releases out to me. This one was insensitive knowing our history and one search on my blog would have told him that. So I rollocked him and have had an apology.

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    1. Brilliant! Needsd to be done aometimes, I think. Enjoy the Baileys!! ;o)

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  15. Great post. I've never been in the popular crowd either and definately not a popular blogger, but I blog for me. I have been lucky enough to review some lovely products (although not huge products like some bloggers) but it's still been nice, and the PR's I have encountered have all be friendly. I can understand why they want stats etc, but surely they should then just target specific "popular" bloggers, rather than just generically ask?

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  16. I love this! I only wish I was as brave as you. Well done for standing up for yourself and your blog.

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  17. I got the very same email today. I haven't replied, although I am very tempted. I rarely tweet during the day any more, but I have a new baby and a 3 year old, and these days we are rarely home during the day, we are out and about enjoying time together.

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  18. Great post written in a very forthright and honest way. I'm sure we all feel much the same from time to time but are not game enough to stick our heads above the parapet. Good on you for blogging what you feel, this is what blogs are meant to be for, expressing what we think and having our own space/platform to do so.

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  19. Great post!

    I was never in the popular crowd! But I know a few 'popular' blogs and who own them, sometimes I wonder if I should even attend events, incase they go too. But who cares! I write for awareness and documenting my feelings.

    Take care x

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    1. Oh MSMummy I totally think you should attend those events. Never let people stop you from doing what you want to do, I don't.

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  20. I'm pretty staggered by that email you got to be honest. It strikes me as very patronising and a bit stalkerish!!

    Give me a kick won't you if I ever don't get back to you or don't reply - it will be because I'm busy/scatty not because I'm rude! xx

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  21. I'm with you on the whole clique thing. I have been blogging for nearly a year and do feel slightly on the outside of it all (still!)I don't blog religiously and I'm not great - I do the odd review but have only just recently had a couple of PR approaches and tbh if I'm not interested in them I haven't even bothered replying. You're obviously way better than me - you have ads even! Mostly I just plod along but I just don't have the time to do everything - I work, I have 2 kids and a house to keep. Half the time I don't even comment enough ( do feel guilty about that!) Anyway here saying hello *waves* !

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  22. This is really interesting reading, and it's nice to see some honesty on this. I was a PR (and still am I suppose) and a blogger too, so I have experience on both sides really, but even though I know this stuff is often down to the client - wording these responses is so important. They wouldn't patronise a journo like that, so why a blogger... Blogging makes everyone a journalist in a way anyway!

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  23. Being both a PR and a blogger I feel I should wade into this really interesting discussion.

    Whilst I do understand that in some situations your stats are important I hate any form of popularity contest (I was never popular, have a small group of close friends).

    To me, both as a blogger and as a PR I like working and engaging with blogs that are of interest to me and that I enjoy reading. And there is no excuse ever to be rude and disrespectful.

    So if anyone wants to come and chat to me, I'll always say hi! :o)

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  24. Damn - just wrote really long reply and internet crashed on phone. Basically, what Adele (Circus Queen) and Sally said.

    I understand why PRs ask for stats, but they're not the be all and end all. Better 100 people who were really engaged with your blog, cared enough to comment and came back to read more, than 600 who couldn't give a monkeys and didn't even read the whole post.

    But I also think it's a bit easy sometimes to make judgments about cliques from the outside, without really knowing those involved - and I say that as someone who's made that mistake in the past.

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  25. Great post! As a relative 'newbie' my blog is just over one year old I was beginning to wonder if the reason was in my experience was a matter of 'my look' or race. I totally agree and believe that not everything a non-white person experiences is about race, but when you write what you think is good content, you engage with all and sundry, via various media and the comments are lacking, then PR company present you with they think is a lovely opportunity that really only benefits them meanwhile you are seeing other bloggers being wined and dined by them I have to admit the insecurity steps in. However, since attending BritMums I've not got over that :0) I'll keep doing things my way like minded reader and other interested persons will come when the time is right. I also have come to learn that its true, what may seem as a clique from the outside really is a group of tried and tested friendships.

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  26. Wow. Clearly that agency have no clue about bloggers. Totally ridiculous.

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  27. I wholeheartedly agree with what you are saying. I am fairly new to blogging and rather than criticise how people run their blogs I run mine how I see fit and hope that like minded people enjoy it. I so agree with the cliquey thing and it is just like being back at school. Sometimes I think you have to take it as a compliment when people don't follow you as I think they feel threatened and don't want to shine light on the competition. I have no bad comments about PR's as I have approached 2 companies and they have both been kind enough to send products that I totally believe in!

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  28. Oh - enjoyed this! Well said x

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  29. Ooh well said you I have been to a few events now, and have met some great bloggers and some are friends, but I am not in the 'in crowd' never have been. At cooking events I am not enough up there with my faffings of meals and cakes I like. I am not a mummy, I have teens so at events I am sometimes shunned as I have not the correct age of child, then people floor me with dropping theier babes into my care and I feel honoured and not so sad!! I would love to meet you and talk to you.... only ouch I am a reviewer, in my defence, its part of my natural career progression, I was and still am partly in marketing, media auditing stores and services, mystery shopping etc. I knew I could do it online for myself.

    So please can I be in the 'not in really' crowd with all the really genuine peeps even though I review? Oh and some PRS get just as snotty however much you do. Sod em and stick with the lovely ones I say. Love this post. x

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  30. Every so often, there is a post about blogging having cliques and you know what. Yes it does, but so does life and blogging represents life. Also I agree with both Sally and Molly on the fact that sometimes what seems like a clique is just friends chatting.

    But in, get involved that is what I love about twitter. I am more than happy for others to join in a conversation.

    With regards top the PR behavior. I have been on the receiving end of some spectacularly bad behavior from PR's, but also some amazing behavior too. Stats are not the be all and end all, for me engagement is, but some PR companies are yet to learn this. I guess it is as new to them as it is to us, but we need to give them feedback as you did, so things improve.

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  31. Hi there

    I'm very new to blogging (2 months). I love what I'm doing and really enjoy people reading my posts and commenting. Thats what I do it for! I have only just learnt about reviews and adverts and I'm pretty sure my blog is way off that sort of thing yet.
    As far as the cliqueiness of blogging goes, I have to agree. There seems to be a large circle of people who dominate the parent bloggers. This doesn't really bother me, but being the outcast at school years ago, I guess I still have the fear in me of being ignored. I understand people lead busy lives, I also have young children, but I always find time to reply to comments on my blog. To be honest when I have contacted the popular people they have nearly always replied. But this week I have left a handful of comments on blogs which have been ignored! I find this quite rude! Someone told me when I started I would need broad shoulders, and I think they might be right!

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  32. Brilliantly written post! I think that there are some valid points about lack of time as I wish I had more time to interact with lovely people like you more often but it is so hard to fit everything in. But there is definitely a popularity issue. Some bloggers have worked damn hard to get where they are and fair play to them and most bloggers I have had dealings with are lovely and helpful. My experiences with PR's are fairly limited up until now but I do get fed up with people wanting a peace of my blog and me having to put in a lot of work for very little. I think you have to value yourself and your lovely blog and stand your ground. Good for you for saying your piece, it sounds as though lots of people feel the same way!

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  33. Pin really saddened you feel like this. I have met some really lovely bloggers, who have gone out of their way to support and encourage me - I think at is what matters not a persons stats or rankings.

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  34. Oh bugger - I hope I've never ignored you at an event! If I have it'll be because I'm a complete airhead who can't remember who I've met and who I haven't. Just give me a punch if I've ever been rude to you!
    Awesome reply btw :)

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  35. Well written lovely. I am terrible at making sure I speak to all at events and usually find its more down to me thinking people will be 'and you are?' if I walk up and start talking - I shall make sure I start to rectify this - its good to talk after all :)

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  36. Hear hear! Couldn't agree more. I blog for the love of it and balls to the rest, but I have recently come across some very questionable behaviour from some people which is rather disappointing and quite underhanded in some respects, not at all a way I think things should be conducted.

    However, the fact that I have been able to meet and engage with people who ARE decent and honest by far outweighs the negative experience, and I have learned simply not even to bother trying to join in with certain 'opportunities' and just to carry on as normal, enjoying blogging for myself and no one else! xx

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  37. Thank you so much for this post.

    I've only been blogging since the beginning of the year and this post has made me feel so much better about me and my blog. I've never been one of the popular ones so god knows why I expected to be now! Thank you for reminding me that it's my blog, for me and sod what anyone else thinks

    X

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  38. I think you'll be noticed by PRs after this :) I get the cliqueyness of blogging, being in Ireland with special needs kids means that many people wouldn't relate to what I write about. Saying that there are some LOVELY bloggers who do read my stuff. I also am seriously short of time, and don't engage nearly as much as the top bloggers do, but I try and answer all tweets and visit everyone who comments on my blog. I think that should be enough, we all have a lot of pressure in our lives x

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  39. What a brilliant post! I've been in your shoes at school and now with my blog and I feel the same way! I had a really rude message from a 'cat flap' company a few weeksn ago (yes a cat flap!!) and I 'wasn't good enough' I don't know how they can be so rude but tey obviously feel as though they can be. Shame on them.

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  40. Great post.
    I've never been in the popular camp either and to be honest, don't think i'd like it there.
    However being friendly, polite and welcoming is far more important.
    Well done for speaking out :)

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  41. The question of a poor PR approach is just noise really and it happens a lot, I just hit delete but the blogging cliques , well you aren't the first to express your views on it, and won't be the last. I know some have said 'that's life' and 'it's just friendship circles' but the exclusions, active ignoring etc can all be a bit annoying sometimes. Politeness doesn't cost anything and you soon get a measure of which people you would choose to mix with in the real world too. Sometimes it reminds me so much of a school playground with the same uncomfortable inner feelings I associate with it. Quite unpleasant. But there is a supportive bank of friends there for me too. I would still say hi to everyone, despite having a friendship circle...so 'hi' :)

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  42. I left a long message about friendships, politeness and cliques but it has disappeared into an Apple commenting wormhole so I will simply try to say this time 'hi' :) I'm not a 'popular' one but I am friendly :)

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  43. This is definitely an insight to what bloggers experience, if I honest, I never knew this existed. Personal, I'm more then happy to write my reviews on what interests me and not others. Whats the point of having a Blog trying to pleased PR companies, it should be personal and original.
    I really enjoyed reading your blog, you have a new follower now. PS: I hope your stats go through the roof and that Company beg you to write for them. Its a shame they are choosing what seems to be the same people to write for them, choosing new writers would give them a wide audience.
    GOOD LUCK x

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  44. Well done for speaking out! As a hobby blogger I enjoy the perks and opportunities that blogging brings. The rankings and hierarchy don't really bother me anymore. I do however love the community, the friendships and the engagement. I hope I am always friendly (although I'm still a bit shy with people I'm not familiar with!) Having a PR imply that you are not good enough is completely crappy...shame on them! Sounds like they are on a power trip waving around their toys to make us sit up and beg! Not cool! Anyway...I am at the Tots 100 Summer Party...see you there! xxx

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  45. I've actually put an 'out of office' email up now, saying that I 'may not respond if I'm not interested' and to please not take offence, but in a conversation with a PR from a HUGE brand (that I don't work with even!!)she said that journalists don't get travel reimbursed and they don't make you wait for days for a response. She was GENUINELY like 'oh, yeah, I hadn't thought of that' when I reminded her that a) we don't have companies paying our travel for us, and b) we don't get PAID to sit responding to emails all day.

    I guess PR's need to start looking at Bloggers more as Freelancers. A freelancer knows that time is money and doesn't mess about. A blogger can't afford to either. After all, it's the days I do nothing but email that I have nothing to add to my blog, because nothing has happened with my babies!

    Good on you for being honest.

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  46. I have found that most of the cliques are just people, who are actually pretty nice. Sometimes I even realise I'm part of some of them. I've found a similar thing at school, too (and at my school many years ago).

    And with PR and SEO approaches, I don't respond to them all and it says I won't on my blog (I think). I like Luschka's idea of an automated reply and I might initiate that.

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  47. Good for you getting this out there. Real life will always come first - perfect!

    Mich x

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  48. I actually find this whole post rather judgemental.

    Perhaps just me. I have had a long day!

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  49. Interesting read - I like your style. I'm new to blogging and all this PR stuff was a bit of an eye-opener to me. I haven't got involved at all and don't think I would want to. I have enough to write about and not enough time to do it, so I don't want the extra pressure. Some companies will be lucky because I might write about a fab day out or something, but equally they might be unlucky if we had a crap time. But I don't want to feel obliged to anyone.

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  50. I love this post, and I feel exactly the same! I've been disenhearted at times and felt ignored by other bloggers, but I've plodded on! I love blogging, and I would love to review products and hold competitions etc, but PR companies don't seem bothered about my blog- probably because I only have 15 followers. But am I bothered? No I'm not! I got my first ever PR email this week- got very excited, but then realised it was a scam when they asked for my paypal details, ahem :/ But I still love writing my blog, and I don't care whether I'm popular or not!
    xx

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  51. I'm also with the rest, love this post. I have joined up to tots 100 but I don't know if I will stick to it. It's sad how people feel they are in a competition all their lives weather it be young or old we will always find them, at events world wide and even behind other people's backs!

    I am learning so much stuff and will be keeping this all in mind, thank you for another great post xx

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