Girl, Stop Apologizing: Review & Giveaway - ENDED

How do you define yourself?  Who do you say you are, both to the world outside and to yourself?  What do you want from life, what are your goals?


The first answer is probably as someone else's something: mother, wife, daughter, employee.  The last is probably a vague 'to be happy' or something along those lines.

What if you were given permission to live and act for you again, not as someone's mum, but as you?  With all your own hopes and dreams and goals?

New York Times bestselling author Rachel Hollis has hit the nail on the head again with her second book, Girl, Stop Apologizing.

Hollis says she has seen it too often, women not fulfilling their true potential.  Whether it is because we are afraid of embarrassment, worried about failing, concerned that we aren't enough, or simply too busy being busy for everyone else, we are letting ourselves down.

Many of us live in fear of being judged for who we are, physically, mentally, emotionally, intellectually, and in our behaviour.  We have been taught to define ourselves through others, to frame our beliefs about ourselves in what others think and tell us.

It's that old adage, what other people think of you is none of your business.  The trick is learning not to care.


In Girl, Stop Apologizing, Hollis challenges women to identify and let go of their excuses, and then to adopt new beliefs and disciplines to enable us to live to our true potential.

Excuses like I don't have enough time, what will people think or what happens if it all goes wrong have no place in moving forward in life.  It's time to ditch the excuses.

Time to stop prioritising everyone else's needs, and take some time for your own.

Hollis urges women everywhere to stop apologizing for their desires, hopes, and dreams and instead to go after them with passion and confidence.  Working through this book you will learn to identify the beliefs and excuses that hold you back, and encouraged to see that you don't need to ask for permission any more.

After this wake up call, it's time to learn the skills to acquire on your new path to growth, confidence, and self belief.  With actionable ideas and a strong, friendly voice, Hollis offers women the courage to change their lives, and the means to do it.

Key to this is the understanding that you cannot change someone else, you can only change yourself and your own behaviours.  You won't make your mum/dad/partner/friend become more supportive, but you can decide that it doesn't matter.  Whatever they think, you need to do what is best for you.  Not at anyone else's expense, but because it is right for you.

It's time to stop standing in your own way, and at the same time to not let others do so either.



Hollis has a motivational, high energy style and a breezy manner which makes the book easy to read.  She shares plenty of her own mistakes and certainly keeps it real.  While her own life choices might not be for everyone, there is plenty to take from the book to inspire you to be the best leader, businesswoman or mum you can be.

The main message of the book is about identifying and setting your own goals, determining how to achieve them, then pursuing those goals and not making apologies for having them.

Working towards and achieving your goals, whatever they may be, means acquiring and practicing essential skills like positivity, effectiveness, confidence, and the ability to ask for help when necessary.

Sometimes it means making sacrifices, making difficult decisions, prioritising your own needs first.

Do you know all this stuff already?  Maybe.  Do you do it?  Probably not.


This book offers some real, practical ideas for making your goals a priority and achieving whatever you want, whether it be starting a business or managing your home life better.

As a busy mum of three active, home-educated kids with a business to run, I know only too well how difficult it is to juggle everyone's needs and wants 24/7, and still find time for me. I love that this book has helped me define my own primary goal better, and to work out how to achieve it even with everything else going on.

I found Rachel's notes on persistence very helpful as recently I have tended to get into a mentality of 'well it hasn't happened by X time, so what's the point'.  Really what I need is to plan better, and accept that there isn't necessarily going to be a perfect time frame.  Persistence and planning (and patience!) are key.

Wherever you are at in your life journey, this book offers guidance on what to do to achieve your goals, as well as how to determine exactly what it is you do want. Highly recommended.

Girl, Stop Apologizing is released in the UK today, 21st March 2019.

To find out more about the book, click here, and to buy a copy, click here.

If you would like to win a copy of Girl, Stop Apologizing, just enter via the Rafflecopter at the bottom of this post.


Bestselling author of Girl, Wash Your Face and founder of TheChicSite.com, Rachel Hollis is a #1 New York Times best-selling author, TV personality, public speaker, podcast host, CCO of the company she founded, and mother of four.

Rachel was named by Inc. Magazine as one of the “Top 30 Entrepreneurs under 30” and she is deeply passionate about empowering women in business.  Her company, The Hollis Company is the foremost authority on premium digital content for women.  With an online reach in the millions, Rachel has built a true and dedicated community all over the world.

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